Monday, November 16, 2009

maintaining privacy

some people think that it's a conflict of interest if you claim to want privacy, yet have profiles on sites like facebook and myspace. they think that you can't possibly want privacy when it comes to your life, if you choose to put yourself out there in that way.

but i completely disagree.

you wouldn't know it i'm sure... but there are some aspects of my life where i am viciously private. and while i do have lots of ways that you can get in touch with me online- i like to be in control of most of it.

for example-

i have a blog..

a personal website..

a message board/forum..

a twitter..

a flickr..

a myspace

and a facebook.

yep, i have them all.

and do i still want privacy when it comes to certain areas of my life? you're damn fucking right i do.

my blog is totally controlled by me. i choose what i want and don't want to write about on it. so if there is something i don't want to talk about in regards to my life... i don't. and no one is any the wiser (until i write things like "i really want to talk about this but i cannnnnnn't"). anything i choose to reveal, is by choice. it's silly to think we know every aspect of someone's life because we read their blog. how little do we really reveal in the grand scheme of things?

my personal website is also totally controlled by me. i design it and decide what i want to put on it. it's basically full of pictures and has kind of become almost pointless now with all the other sites out there... but i still can't stand the thought of letting it go. anything that is on my website, i am obviously okay with it being there.

my message board. my forum. my ster-munity. i've had this message board community for almost 9 years now. NINE YEARS!!! this board is a huge reason why i've never really gotten uber involved in myspace, facebook, or twitter. because i post daily in my forum- there seems little reason to post elsewhere. i post in there and talk about all sorts of things (way more than i do anywhere else online). but of course, like everywhere else, i choose to post what i do in there knowing it's in the open. but that's also the reason why there are private folders in the forum that only certain members can see. there are lots of things the people who post there wouldn't want just anyone to be able to access or read. so even on a public message board, there are still ways to have private conversations.

there is a reason my twitter updates are private. it's the same reason why my facebook is private. and my myspace (not that i ever go on there). yes i have profiles on social networking sites, but if you aren't my friend, you can't see my profile, or my pictures, or what i choose to write on them. and you can only see these things if i approve you. and i like having that kind of control.

and with flickr.. well i have the option to make certain pictures either private, or so only certain people can see them. and believe me when i tell you that i certainly utilize that feature.

so yeah.. i do want privacy when it comes to certain aspects of my life. and i don't think it's hypocritical to maintain all sorts of online profiles, and still expect that certain things remain private.

do you?


Becky at lifeoutoffocus said...

omg yes. i'm on all those sites minus myspace and i still want privacy. just becuase we're on all those sites doesn't mean we're not still wanting privacy. and as far as the forum goes, thank god for the private folder or else i'd never post pics or tell y'all anything!

Amanda said...

Bah, I am beyond sick of people crossing judgement on how and where I do what I do. Anytime I have ever crossed a line and mentioned someone or something I ought not have, I've made right. Do it your way for as long as you want, everyone else can eff off.

carrie said...

I COMPLETELY agree! I control the information and honestly, there is A TON of things I WILL not share and that's my choice, our choice.

I get sick of hearing the arguments that bloggers need to be absolutely, 100% transparent about every single thing in their lives. Who wants to know that much about anybody (unless it's your spouse, and then it's still questionable)???? And why do people think they are required to provide all this info? It makes no sense! I mean, like celebrities, for instance - I like seeing pics and hearing some info but they have a private life that needs to be just theirs as well and it's NONE of my business or anyone matter how curious we may be.

Anyway - sorry got off on a tanget there but yes - privacy is important for everyone and we should respect that in one another and allow boundaries. Those who do not understand this need to get a clue.


Lara said...

Yes, and I agree with you that it's not unreasonable to want privacy. I think related to that is the difference between what I'm willing to tell people and what I'm okay with others telling people about me. Just because I will tell my life story to someone, doesn't mean I'm okay with anyone else going and telling my life story to someone. It's my story to tell and I should be the one to decide when and where to tell it.

AiringMyLaundry said...

I want some privacy but I don't need a lot.

I'm a fairly open person.

Unknown said...

i totally agree with what you are saying. yes my blog is public but my other networking sites are private. I think everyone needs a little privacy unless you are Miley and then well forget about it!

Heather@WHMB said...

Yes ma'am - a little privacy is a good thing!

Jill said...

Yep, loud and clear

Daddy Dan said...

No Tumblr site? What a slacker!!!

Grand Pooba said...

I just went and checked out your website. It's like a blog in pictures! Love it.

And my view is that it's up to you what you want to share and what you don't. Why does anybody else have a problem with that? those effers.

Sonia said...

I think it's perfectly reasonable to want privacy despite having your blog, sites, social networking profiles!

For me personally.....I've become very private because of some things that happened to me and because of me. I choose to keep my facebook private, as much as possible. Now, here's what I don't get......on both my blog (now deleted) and my facebook page, people have misrepresented who they are to get an invitation. WHY would anyone CARE what the hell I'm doing or saying?!!!! I am SO NOT THAT INTERESTING! LOL!!!!

Jax said...

I'm so with you here. I consider myself a private person despite having a blog, facebook, etc.. I CONTROL what I put out there and I definitely cannot and will not share everything! I wouldnt even share everything if it was a paper journal b/c I'm too paranoid someone will find it or something. haha.. So, yeah.. I agree with you.. 100%

BonBon Rose Girls Kristin said...

I have public blog but private FB profile. I think most of us need at least some semblance of privacy. : )

Katie said...

I feel the same way. People ask why I have my twitter set to private if my blog is public. To which I say, I don't need strangers knowing my minute by minute activities, but reading my blog is fine. Plus my twitter has my full name in it. either way, I say some things should remain protected.