even as adults, we still have lessons to learn. this past weekend was a great example of that for me, and a lot of my friends.
we were at a baseball tournament and there was this kid on the opposing team who looked like freaking a rod. he was super tall, totally muscular, and moved the way at least a high schooler would move. he was supposed to be 10. of course we laughed and i joked about asking him out on a date later. we made comments about how he probably drove the team here and how we'd see him up at the bar. we were never trying to hurt his feelings or make him feel bad, but we were just joking amongst ourselves at the craziness of this kid even possibly being 10. that even if he was that tall, what 10 year old is that coordinated with that kind of body?
then i talked to one of the moms on that team. and she told me how everywhere they go it's like a freak show. and people make comments and say things like "he can't be 10, he has FACIAL HAIR!!" and they never stop to think that he can hear them. and that he's 10. and how is a 10 year old supposed to feel about himself when he hears these things about him? she told me how nervous he gets going out on the field. how when he pitched in the last game, he was shaking he was so scared. how he was totally 10 years old, go talk to him for 2 seconds.
and it all rang in my head after i walked away. imagining a 10 year old boy hearing people say things about his facial hair. and people questioning his age, and the way his body looks. and he has no control over any of that stuff. he's just a child. he may not look it, but he is. i ended up feeling so fucking bad. i wanted to go hug the kid and tell him that it might be hard for him right now, but it won't always be this way. he will be a superstar in no time.
you know, i often say things that i think are funny... totally joking around without thinking about it. it's never with will intention, or to make someone feel bad, but i know the shit i say can definitely hurt someone's feelings. i need to be more aware of what i'm saying. even though i meant nothing with all my jokes about this kid- i still made a ton of jokes about a child. a freaking 10 year old. who does that?
wanted to include this because it's somewhat along the same lines- judging someone.. laughing at them.. and here's to having them shut you the hell up.