because 1 post about comments apparently isn't enough.
personally, i have all the blogs i read in bloglines. i rarely click over to someone's actual blog to comment, unless i have something to say on that person's post. but before i had bloglines, i found that i would comment way more- probably because i would visit individual blogs everyday (ps, how the fuck did we do that before the feedreaders? visit 50 or more blogs every.single.day. good lord). if i was already at the blog, it was just easy to leave a comment there. even when i had nothing of significance at all to add. but now that everything is in one condensed place, it's super easy NOT to comment. it's really easy to read everyday, but not click over to add to the conversation.
and that got me thinking because some whore sent me an email letting me know that she still reads me everyday, but doesn't comment much. and in all honesty, i thought that person had stopped reading me completely. so it made me wonder how many people think i've stopped reading them, because i don't comment very often? maybe a lot. but people, i still read you. every.single.day (except on weekends cause i have a life. ha)
and then that got me thinking that we all say how much we love getting comments. we love the interaction with eachother. we write to get our feelings out, but we also love hearing when other people feel the same way. the validation. it helps us feel less crazy, and we bond. real life friendships are born. but how can we form those if we don't interact with one another anymore? if we take away the very basis of what we started this whole thing for...... the comments... what are we left with?
i'm not sure what the answer is. i mean, feedreaders have made it very easy for people to read hundreds of blogs daily. but have we lost something in the process? i'm not sure. commenting just to comment, doesn't add anything to the conversation either. so maybe if you only click over from your feed reader and comment when you're truly inspired to do so, that isn't a bad thing?
i think the hard part is that we associate the amount of people reading our blog with the amount of comments we get. and i think that's really far from the truth. and i think we forget that people still read our words, even when they have nothing to say about them. and it makes us feel kind of bad sometimes. hell, i definitely have gone through periods of time where i wondered what the fuck i did to drive everyone away? and then i would further torment myself by looking back to when i would get 50+ comments per post and question if i've changed? and the reality is, i don't think i've changed at all. blogland has changed. and that's okay. sometimes i have to just keep reminding myself that.