i can't handle reading another goodbye from a blogger. there have been SO MANY goodbye posts in the past month or so, it's almost overwhelming. but i think i'm jaded, because i immediately read those, and don't believe them. far too many people post these long, drawn out goodbye's, only to come back the next day. there is one particular blogger who has posted that they will stop blogging at least a handful of times (since i've been reading)- only to post again within the hour, almost every single time. it's like a dammed vicious circle with this person. life is too hard. i'm stopping blogging. i can't stop. i'm back. *rips out hair*
all of this stems from my message board. i've seen this behavior before. people want to leave the forum, so they post these goodbye posts and then they get a million comments and emails from people begging them to stay. and so they stay. and then when the message board life gets too rough again, here comes the "i'm leaving forever!!" post- which really means, "i'll be back tomorrow!"
so that is why when i read posts from bloggers saying they're leaving forever, my gut instinct is, that they're not. and then i wonder why they posted anything like that in the first place? for the sake of my sanity, please think about why you're doing this. if you're thinking about stopping blogging- then take the time to think about it. don't post that you're leaving, and then think about it. think first. just leave your last blog post up while you weigh the pro's and con's of blogging. if everyone gets concerned as to why you're not posting- they can email you. right? right. once you've actually made a decision in regards to your future and blogging, then post about it. i mean, if you feel the need. because that's the other part of this. half of me wonders why people post that they're leaving, while the other half of me totally understands why they do it. but why do people post and leave their comments open? do they want to get hundreds of comments begging them to stay? do they need the reassurance that they are liked? do they need one last ego boost? but if that has nothing to do with why they're stopping, then it makes no sense to me. i guess if i was to stop- i would most likely post something about it. i would feel like i owed the people who read this blog an explanation as to why i was stopping, or taking a break, etc. or maybe i would want to post why i was stopping for myself. i'm not good with leaving things open and unanswered. but i like to think that i would close the comments.
i don't know. maybe i'm being way too bitchy about all of this. it's just that i'm not good with feeding people's ego's when they need them fed. and sometimes i wonder if that's all those "goodbye" posts are.
please note that when it's a genuine goodbye post from a writer i enjoy reading, the sadness that comes with that is real. and i also understand that sometimes we post those goodbye's and mean them at the time. and then we come back because we realized that we made a mistake and leaving wasn't what would make us happy. i know that every situation is different and every individual is different as well. i guess my whole point is to not jump on the "goodbye forever" bandwagon without truly thinking things through. my heart can't take it.